tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post4401085601109719422..comments2024-01-22T00:46:35.341-08:00Comments on Our Diabetic Life: It's ok that I'm not ok.Merihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09752883120541646427noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-68102596275732791202013-09-26T00:45:58.696-07:002013-09-26T00:45:58.696-07:00I'm new to your blog, and new to Type 1...my d...I'm new to your blog, and new to Type 1...my daughter is 9 and we are 5 months in. She just got her pump last week, and it's been a pretty rocky road.<br /><br />Also, yesterday was the 3rd anniversary of my best friend's death from cancer. Reading your post (referred from another Type 1 blogger), I was thinking about Sandy and how she felt so pressured to be well, and about her husband feeling, I suspect, so pressured to get over her death, and the way I felt pressured during those first few weeks after she died to start feeling better. Immediately after the funeral, people would say things like "Now that's out of the way maybe things will start looking up." <br /><br />Our culture doesn't like the 'liminal state' - the way the ill or the grieving don't buy into, or fully occupy, the box of society. Convalescence is a thing in itself; not illness and not wellness, it can't be rushed or denied. But beautiful things come out of grief properly observed - I have read your most recent post, about looking right at diabetes as a friend and fellow victim, and I believe that sort of epiphany comes to us only when we have sat with our pain instead of running from it or medicating it. It takes patience and grit.<br /><br />Thanks for this post. I'm looking forward to reading more from your blog.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10704810407872873565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-77926327814284323442013-09-13T10:20:14.879-07:002013-09-13T10:20:14.879-07:00Im happy to see that you finally blogged this all ...Im happy to see that you finally blogged this all out! Ive always believed that its ok to not be ok, and its okay to have some days that we crawl in bed and hide. ((HUGS)) Kellyhttp://www.type1mom-chasingnumbers.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-5430758479311602202013-09-13T10:02:17.362-07:002013-09-13T10:02:17.362-07:00We are 5 1/2 years since losing my beloved, beauti...We are 5 1/2 years since losing my beloved, beautiful sister(in law who was so much more than an in law) and she is still never far from my mind, I don't always feel that gut wrenching pain, when I think of her but sometime I do and I still cry. And that's ok with me... I often feel my brother raced to replace her and provide a "Mom" for their 5 yr old daughter. The relationship with his girlfriend is strained at best and my niece still isn't the same without her Mom either. Don't let anyone rush you as you go through your own process....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-70026416564451943892013-09-13T09:27:18.765-07:002013-09-13T09:27:18.765-07:00As you write about your struggles and pain, Meri, ...As you write about your struggles and pain, Meri, it only reminds me more and more of how incredibly strong you are! I admire you so. Love love love to you and the boys whom Ryan is watching over, without a doubt.Ginger Vieirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851866250781844673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-14312814007382683112013-09-13T08:41:03.398-07:002013-09-13T08:41:03.398-07:00I think you are doing amazballs and you have every...I think you are doing amazballs and you have every reason to take the right time for YOU. Never worry about how uncomfortable other people are... THAT is THEIR issue to deal with. Just keep on doin Meri... cuz thats pretty damn awesome. I love you!!Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07192247387107228743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-79184133635654455752013-09-13T02:57:07.634-07:002013-09-13T02:57:07.634-07:00Every day a bit better - I like that and something...Every day a bit better - I like that and something I will say to myself each morning. Thank you.<br />AmandaFeltFinlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752112973307523571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5248101319829846491.post-61938461933753654672013-09-12T22:38:48.688-07:002013-09-12T22:38:48.688-07:00You're totally right, it's okay that you&#...You're totally right, it's okay that you're not okay. Sometimes I wonder if our society is just so numb to feelings that when people like you share honestly they just want to fix it to that they're not uncomfortable, too. I know my mother-in-law has told me numerous times that it is hard for her to feel her grief because for so long she was told to just keep moving, I try to remind her that we are okay with her feeling whatever she feels, we may not know what to say at each moment, but no matter the feeling she doesn't have to go through it alone. I am thankful to keep hearing about the loving community you have near you, that right there is wonderful. I hope your weekend is great and you find moments to just be and enjoy with those beautiful boys of yours. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03210820513382353417noreply@blogger.com